Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.

Tolstoy

Most people emerge from the natural grieving process in a healthy manner. However, many people do not receive the support they need to overcome the pain of mourning. The file are trapped in their brief feelings which later surface as the underlying cause of physical and mental problems. For these people counselling is that they are way back to a healthy life. People seek physical and mental health care without necessarily recognising that there may be a grief issue underlying their particular physical or mental condition.

Following a bereavement or loss you may experience feelings of sadness, anger, guilt and self-reproach, anxiety, loneliness, fatigue, helplessness, shock, yearning, emancipation, relief and numbness.

Physical sensations commonly reported by clients include;

  • tightness in the chest
  • tightness in the throat
  • hollowness in the stomach
  • over sensitivity to noise
  • breathlessness, feeling short of breath
  • weakness in the muscles
  • dry mouth
  • lack of energy

Certain thoughts are common , sometimes thoughts persist and trigger feelings that can lead to depression anxiety.

Thoughts of disbelief, confusion, preoccupation, hallucinations and a sense of presence are common.

Clients report behaviours such as;

  • sleep disturbance
  • appetite disturbance
  • absent-minded behaviour
  • social withdrawal
  • searching and calling out
  • restless over activity
  • crying
  • and more.

The feelings, thoughts and behaviours listed above are common to people who experience loss bereavement after the death of a loved one.

Many of these same symptoms are felt by people who experience loss from for example;

  • a relationship breakdown
  • loss of a job
  • loss of security
  • failure to achieve dreams
  • Physical health issues

The therapist in the counselling process supports you, working through your feelings and thoughts in your grieving process.